Archive for July, 2012

Relationship problems

What the Robert Pattinson Dating Scandal Tells Us About Our Own Trust Issues.

If you’ve been living under a rock these past few weeks and therefore haven’t heard anything about the dissolution of Hollywood’s Twilight super-couple, here’s a rough summary: Kristen Stewart admitted to cheating on boyfriend Robert Pattinson with her Snow White and the Huntsman director Rupert Sanders, though sources say that the pair did no more than kiss. She issued a public apology, but Pattinson has moved out of the couple’s $6 million house and in with his friend and Water for Elephants cast mate Reese Witherspoon.
Why should you care about all of this? Fundamentally, Pattinson and Stewart’s relationship problems are nobody’s business but their own, and most of us understand that they deserve privacy, but there’s a reason we’re all so drawn to the tabloid headlines. Aside from the obvious fun of reading about the drama of the rich and famous, something about this story is hitting a chord with the American public. As it should: they’re struggling with issues we all face.
One of the aspects of the saga that has most incised Pattinson was the fact that Stewart made a public statement apologizing for her infidelity before even speaking to him. We may not have Us Weekly breathing down our necks, but in the age of Facebook, everyone’s photos and “relationship status” are on display just as much as those of our favorite celebrities. Just like RPatz and KStew, who have always struggled to keep their relationship out of the public eye and been uncomfortable with the constant media presence, we all know a couple who have argued about when to make their relationship “Facebook official.”
Even more interesting than the issue of publicity is the problem of trust, or the lack thereof, in our culture. Pattinson has chosen to throw away a three-year relationship over one kiss rather than talk to Stewart and try to work something out. Maybe this is naïve of me, but I can’t believe that there’s no way to rebuild the trust between the two.
Statistically, infidelity is on the rise. One study showed that 74% of men and 68% of women would have an affair if they knew that they would not get caught. Meanwhile, as cheating scandals become more and more prevalent, our culture is increasingly glorifying a lack of trust as the true sign of love.
Consider the Twilight series that first brought Pattinson and Stewart together. Edward Cullen, considered by many tweenage and older girls to be the platonic ideal of a boyfriend, displays trust issues and a desire to control Bella that set off serious abuse red-flags. Christian Grey, romantic lead of the Twilight-inspired 50 Shades of Grey series, goes so far as to ask his paramour to sign a contract promising that she won’t sleep with anyone else and effectively allowing him complete control over her life.
Rather than idealizing trust issues, we should be celebrating couples who actually communicate with each other and work through rough patches. Pattinson has a chance to be a better boyfriend than Edward Cullen, and he doesn’t just owe it to Stewart to give her another chance. He owes it to the millions of teenage girls who are watching and taking notes.

Online dating

Online dating: Ten things to consider.

Are you one of those millions of individuals around the world who are single and seeking? Have you not been able to find the right match in the past and therefore you are lacking confidence to try it for another time? If so, you may wish to consider the tips on how to date successfully.

1. The first thing you need to consider is that that way you present yourself is the first thing that appeals others to come towards you. For this reason, always upload your photos on your online profiles to attract the potential mates you are looking for.

2. The second important thing to consider are the characteristics that you are seeking in a potential mate. Dating websites enable you to fill out such characteristics as your academic background, your age range, your tastes and your dislikes. This helps you to find the right match for you at the end of the day.

3. The third best tip for you would be to make sure that you are consistently refreshing your online dating profile. This will promote your image to others as a lively and engaged person and will attract more individuals towards you.

4. Next, always express as much as possible who you really are through your profile. This will also enable your match to be able to more easily find you. Once you are interacting with different girls and guys on such dating websites, never try to pretend to be a celebrity or a super hero.

5. Remember, all users of such websites are simply human beings and all they are often looking for are simple human beings as well. Do not portray yourself like someone who you are not. Be what you are and this is what will pay you at the end of the business day.

6. Now comes, probably the most important piece of advice for you. Always communicate positively and in a well mannered and cultured way. Yes, this is very important as well since most of the individuals get impressed with the way you are talking with them.

7. Now, remember that you should not be hasty in asking the girl or the guy to come out to date with you. Always take time to let her know about you and then ask for this when it seems appropriate, without appearing to be desperate.

8. Remember, you need to be confident in yourself. Do not underestimate yourself.

9. You need courage to ask the partner to come out for a date. A coward’s approach will not appeal to most women.

10. Never try to pressure someone for a date. Let it be a simple and natural instinct in both of you to be out for a date.

Mystery

Marilyn Monroe – Mystery Surrounding Marilyn Monroe’s Fbi Files Are Ever Growing.
On Sunday 5th of August it will have been fifty years since one of the most famous faces of the 20th century, Marilyn Monroe, died of an apparent overdose. At just 36-years-old the death was a tragic and well-recorded event, with interest in the actress and her death still very much at a high.
As the half-century anniversary of the tragic event draws ever closer, shrouds of mystery are as thick as those over the records held by the Fbi, with the unnecessary secrecy continuously fuelling the rumours that suspect number one for the murder of Monroe is in fact the US government.
The records kept on Monroe by the Federal Bureau of Investigation, which are many, have been a source of intrigue for many seeking to gain a closer insight on the film star and her death. However, even so long after her death, the files are still heavily censored. So much so that following a police investigation in 1988 by the Lapd, even they could not gain access into the files.
The Fbi, run by the often unstable J Edgar Hoover at the time, were keen to monitor the movements of Monroe, fearing that she could be used as a pawn by Communist conspirators during the highly paranoid time in American politics.
Still, it isn’t unusual for the Fbi to keep their files well under wraps, as many archivists have found in the past. Until the day that the government finally allows full access to it’s files then accounts that Monroe’s death was murder will be nothing more that a conspiracy, and nothing else.